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Throw Back Thursday: Date Nights

Someone wise once told me that after marriage, couples should still court, or in other words, continue to date one another after the I do’s are exchanged. Dating remains important after the vows because it helps the spark in your marriage. Date nights do not need to be elaborate; the important thing is that you have a date night.

For Trae and myself, we tend to say we are going to go on a date and then never do. We figured out that we had to prepay for a date in order to actually go on one. We stumbled across an Irish pub when we lived in South Carolina. Once a month the pub had a themed dinner with entertainment. For forty dollars, you got anywhere around a four to six course super yummy dinner, several glasses of wine, and a local improv group putting on a small play (The Entire Works of Shakespeare) or a murder mystery. We started becoming regulars on these special dinner nights so much so that the servers started to give us extra special care and the actors and actresses would come up to talk to us. We loved these dinner nights so much that we even attended one the night before we moved to North Carolina. Instead of freaking out about the last random junk that needed to go in a box, we were feasting on food while trying to solve the murder of a 1920s gangster.

And you know the best part of these nights?? Costume optional! The restaurant encouraged patrons to dress up according to the dinner’s theme! Some of the dinner high lights are

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Sorry about the bad quality! These pictures are from 2011. Recognize the dress in the second picture? It is the Rose dress! I got to wear my old prom dress during a Titanic Memorial dinner. The restaurant cooked dishes from a second class menu, and it was one of the best meals I have ever had!

Sadly, we now leave six hours away from that restaurant, so it really isn’t feasible to do dates there anymore. We still do date nights, and I have a few tips on how to make sure you date nights are fun, unique, and inexpensive:

-Like your favorite restaurants on Facebook. Many times they will post specials.

-Like your town and surrounding towns on Facebook. We liked one small town, which is about a thirty minute drive away. About a month ago the town had a status about a beer festival. For forty dollars a couple, we went to a food competition and got to taste food from six of the best chefs in the town. Each food was paired with a local brew.

-Like museums and art galleries on Facebook as well. We are now regulars on the First Friday Art Walks. Each first Friday of the month the art galleries have open houses with tasty treats. Best part is First Friday Art Walk is free! Soon we are driving to an art museum that shows movies outside for free. Participants are encouraged to bring picnic dinners!

All in all, make social media work for you. Almost all businesses have Facebook pages. Many times events that you would have never known about are advertised on those pages. By liking the page, you are liking potential date nights!

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Throw Back Thursday

Odd that my second post would be a Throw Back post since really I don’t have any posts to throw back from. Yet, in a way, I find a Throw Back post fitting. A large part of this blog consists of looking back at my three and half years of marriage and discussing the wows and vows of marriage.

One of the most important things I have learned during my marriage is not to wait for the wow days, but instead create them in everyday little moments. It is amazing how a little thing can change your whole day from a vow to a wow. One of my favorite examples of turning an ordinary day (neither wow or vow, just eh) comes for early on in our marriage.

My husband and I are very blessed by having loving friends and family. I was humbled and overwhelmed when the outpouring of love started to come in material formats, known as wedding gifts. One day a mysterious box appeared and it was filled with delightful pasta, a wedding gift from a friend who did a reading at our wedding and who I had also traveled to Italy with. The box contained chocolate linguine (wonderfully delicious with a raspberry sauce and home-made whip cream) and lime, mango, chili shells.

In the early days of our marriage back in 2010, we celebrated the little milestones. A year seemed like a far off, yet exciting milestone, so we celebrated little ones, which is an important to do for a marriage to keep it health. For our one month anniversary, we made lamb ragu and finished the meal by watching the wedding video as we slurped down chocolate linguine Lady and the Tramp style. The other pasta was going to be consumed on another special occasion. The occasion, however, never came. Six month anniversary brought steak and a mini-wedding cake dessert.

A Tuesday about eight months into our marriage came along, and I came home hungry and happy. We had left over chicken in the fridge and salsa in the pantry. The lime, mango, chili shells pasta was in a pot of boiling water in a matter of moments.

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Sitting at the table with my husband made me realize we cannot wait for the special moments, because even the ordinary moments are extraordinary. In marriage, we must be willing to find the extraordinary,because the covenant of marriage is extraordinary. Couples stand up before God, family, and friends and promise to love one other for better and for worse. Promising to love someone even when that person is sick, depressed, or forgetful is hard and if we continually focus on the negative or wait to get dressed up in a cocktail dress to feel wow, then we miss the little moments that make a marriage. If we had been waiting for that “special day” that delicious meal would have gone unmade; the pasta would have still been sitting in our pantry. Instead, an ordinary Tuesday ended up being the perfect day.

What are other ways that couples can turn the ordinary into a wow?

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March 20, 2014 · 6:56 pm