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Throw Back Thursday: Date Nights

Someone wise once told me that after marriage, couples should still court, or in other words, continue to date one another after the I do’s are exchanged. Dating remains important after the vows because it helps the spark in your marriage. Date nights do not need to be elaborate; the important thing is that you have a date night.

For Trae and myself, we tend to say we are going to go on a date and then never do. We figured out that we had to prepay for a date in order to actually go on one. We stumbled across an Irish pub when we lived in South Carolina. Once a month the pub had a themed dinner with entertainment. For forty dollars, you got anywhere around a four to six course super yummy dinner, several glasses of wine, and a local improv group putting on a small play (The Entire Works of Shakespeare) or a murder mystery. We started becoming regulars on these special dinner nights so much so that the servers started to give us extra special care and the actors and actresses would come up to talk to us. We loved these dinner nights so much that we even attended one the night before we moved to North Carolina. Instead of freaking out about the last random junk that needed to go in a box, we were feasting on food while trying to solve the murder of a 1920s gangster.

And you know the best part of these nights?? Costume optional! The restaurant encouraged patrons to dress up according to the dinner’s theme! Some of the dinner high lights are

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Sorry about the bad quality! These pictures are from 2011. Recognize the dress in the second picture? It is the Rose dress! I got to wear my old prom dress during a Titanic Memorial dinner. The restaurant cooked dishes from a second class menu, and it was one of the best meals I have ever had!

Sadly, we now leave six hours away from that restaurant, so it really isn’t feasible to do dates there anymore. We still do date nights, and I have a few tips on how to make sure you date nights are fun, unique, and inexpensive:

-Like your favorite restaurants on Facebook. Many times they will post specials.

-Like your town and surrounding towns on Facebook. We liked one small town, which is about a thirty minute drive away. About a month ago the town had a status about a beer festival. For forty dollars a couple, we went to a food competition and got to taste food from six of the best chefs in the town. Each food was paired with a local brew.

-Like museums and art galleries on Facebook as well. We are now regulars on the First Friday Art Walks. Each first Friday of the month the art galleries have open houses with tasty treats. Best part is First Friday Art Walk is free! Soon we are driving to an art museum that shows movies outside for free. Participants are encouraged to bring picnic dinners!

All in all, make social media work for you. Almost all businesses have Facebook pages. Many times events that you would have never known about are advertised on those pages. By liking the page, you are liking potential date nights!

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Reflections from the Under the Weather

I am sick. I have a wonderfully runny nose and cold chills. I feel awesome. So awesome in fact that I never got dressed or showered (a little TMI considering the new-ness of this blog, I know). I have made a hovel on the couch and indulged in the ultimate sick-day activity: watching trash TV. TLC seemed to know that I was sick and had an infinite loop of wedding shows on. Four Weddings dominated that loop. Four Weddings is a show where four women attend each others weddings and rate the weddings in hope of winning a honeymoon. They brides pick everything apart and say how much better their wedding will be. Thoughts are not given to after the wedding, except for drinks on the beach after winning the honeymoon.

These women were not thinking about the future and when they would get sick. How would their husbands react when they got sick and the house needed cleaning and the laundry was looming? Today lying on the couch I realized how lucky and blessed I truly am. I slept in while Trae went to work and when he got home, he made me lunch and washed the dishes. He made told me not worry about laundry and insisted that I rest today. And rest I did. He refilled my water glass and kept checking in on me. Before he went to job two, he made me wonderfully set up complete with a cat in my lap.

Today could have been a complete Vow day. Instead I think we both made it a Wow day (well as Wow as a non-shaved, non-showered person can be). Attitude is everything in a marriage. Trae could have been upset that he had to work two jobs today and I stayed on the couch. Instead he remembered that I had been working both jobs all week myself and he had this bug earlier this week. He took this chance as a way to show me that he loved me. I saw every refill of water as silent I love you from him.

As Proverbs 17:22 says “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.” When a spouse is sick, do not think of it as an annoyance, but a true chance to put those vows to practice.  Make your spouse’s heart joyful so he/ she  feels better sooner; be annoyed with your spouse and the undone laundry and that will only make your spouse feel worse. Some quick ways to make your spouse feel special and loved even when sick are:

  • if you are at work, call your sick spouse on the way home. Ask him/ her if he/ she needs anything. Maybe a milkshake or a bowl of soup.
  • Put your spouse’s favorite movie on and offer to watch it with him/ her
  • Get your spouse comfy: favorite blanket, maybe a childhood stuffed animal, water within reach
  • If your spouse is stressing about housework while sick, do a couple of small tasks like wash the dishes to show your spouse you can handle it.
  • Make sure your spouse remembers to take his/ her medication, but don’t be overly motherly about it!
  • Most importantly remember to make it a Vow moment.

 

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